I tweeted the other day about having a conversation with friends about trying to discuss the problematic aspects of the Rocky movies, now first things first I want to be clear that for all their faults I love these movies, but i recognise that just because I like something does not mean it has no negative connotations for others and we need to be mindful of these shortcomings. The issue I raised is that in essence the story is about a white man shutting up a surrogate for the load mouthed boxer Mohammad Ali. I was dismissed and called a conspiracy theoriest. I tried to explain about privilege and how something being flawed but not out right racist but still needs its problems recognised this was quickly dismissed and it was super awkward I felt very much out on a limb.
Also I recently brought a tee shirt that says "ask me about my feminist agenda" it might have greater significance but I know of it from the now infamous Mockingbird cover
I have worn it in public a couple of times and have felt very selfaware doing so, I found it very uncomfortable being around other men whilst wearing it.
I bring these things up, because I have no stake in either situation, I'm a white guy and if it made me feel awkward and uncomfortable then I can only imagine what it is like to go through life where I can't just stop having the conversation, or take the tee shirt off.
I think we could all do with feeling a bit uncomfortable, walking a mike in each other's shoes etc. It bothers me that i wasnt able to get through to my friends, but at least i drew a line, at least i spent some time talking about making things better. Maybe if we all do that we will get there eventually.
I haven't decided specifically what yet but I am going to do something I perceive as effeminate, perhaps get my nails done or something, I'm going to spend some more time making myself feel awkward so that I better understand how others feel.